THIS Sunday gone we celebrated Father’s Day.
For a lot of us dads this would have looked like having lunch with our family, phone calls from our children; or if you’re like me and have young children you perhaps received gifts they made during the week at school.
It’s an enjoyable day of celebrations as we pause for a moment in the busyness of life to celebrate dads.
While I enjoyed the celebrations, I found myself on Father’s Day pondering this question; “are my children/family getting the best of me?
Being a dad isn’t easy.
For instance, I (like so many other dads) am a full-time dad, but at the same time I’m a full-time husband and money earner, and the difficulty is; every one of these areas wants the best of me.
Life can be full of stress and worries, and so many of these come from work and money.
I don’t know about you but I find when everything goes wrong at work I often come home thinking about what I could have done differently, and begin to ponder as to how I am going to make up on lost time tomorrow.
Even though when I do this I might physically be with my family, the reality is mentally I am anywhere but in the room.
In Matthew’s account of Jesus’ life, he records Jesus as asking this rhetorical question of his followers: “Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?”
I love that.
Can meditating on past events or even events of tomorrow add a single moment to our lives? So often it seems the reason we dwell on the past is out of a subconscious attempt to change that moment so we can feel better about it.
And isn’t it the same when we meditate on tomorrow?
We do so to ensure the outcome is a favourable moment in time.
While there is great wisdom in learning from our past and planning for our future, the reality is that every time we do we are stealing a moment from the moment we are currently in.
I don’t know about you but I find so often the very moments I steal from are the moments I’m with my family; and while I am doing that, something other than my family is getting the best of me, and they end up with whatever is left over.
I think every parent has been told; “your children will only be young once.”
Meaning enjoy the moments you have with them now as you’ll never get those moments back.
A moment tomorrow is never guaranteed; the only guarantee is the moment we are currently in.
So, as dads are we giving the best of us to our families by being present in the moment or are we giving it to something else?